Parenting God’s Way
As I write this article, I am being summoned to an overflowing kitchen. One of my children was trying to wash plates (he thinks he is old enough) and the water filled the sink and was just pouring down. Imagine the big mess that I have to clean up.
Sometimes in life, we feel like our life is on hold, our talents are lying dormant and that we have more to offer than to clean up after the mess that our children make. Other times we wonder what parenting is really all about. There is really more to parenting than cleaning up the spills and changing the diapers. We need to always remember that whatever we do for our children is never in vain. There is a purpose for it. It could be that we want our children to be happy and healthy or go to a great school and get a six-income job.
However, Christian parenting is more than that. Christian parenting is parenting on purpose. For us to parent on purpose and not by accident, we need to discover what that purpose is. Proverbs 29:18 says that people perish without vision. So also our children’s potential may likely perish if we parent without a vision. The main purpose of Christian parenting is to train up our children in such a way that they grow up to fulfil specific kingdom purpose. Every child has a unique God given purpose and has been endowed with specific talents and disposition to fulfill this calling.
In the book of Jeremiah 1:5, God says to Jeremiah “Before I formed thee in the womb I knew thee, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you a prophet to the nations. So every child has a unique calling and has been appointed for a purpose. Parents are called to help their children identify their unique purpose and send them to it. Parents are not to mold but unfold their children’s potential.
Here is a simple real-life illustration. Paul’s parents discovered that he loved to teach others what he had learned. Especially, he was passionate about teaching from the bible when he was young. He was very inquisitive and wanted to know the reason for everything. Before he was two years old, he was able to make complete sentences. He always wanted to tell others what he knew. He was very vocal. He was also very interested in the things of God. His parents constantly fed his curiousity and prayed for him. He eventually became a gifted leader and powerful teacher.
Parents can discover their children’s purpose through prayers and also by observation. Their talents start speaking at an early age. Parents who are vigilant enough can detect this and guide their children along that part. They could be called to be ministers, businessmen, scholars or into leadership. Good parenting identifies this unique calling and sets the children apart to fulfil it. It meets the children’s specific needs and equips them to fulfil their unique purpose. Parents are encouraged to raise their children on purpose, this is God’s way.
Written by Dr. Godwin & Blessing Ude.