Getting His Attention
Find the right time: Discover the moment when your partner is typically more responsive and pleasant. This could be in the morning, evening or after a good meal and relaxation.
Create the right atmosphere: If you are financially okay, you can plan an overnight trip or weekend trip to a pleasant place. If not, find a time when there is no distraction ( such as children) and take the phone off the hook. This makes for a better communication.
Have the right attitude: When speaking to him, do not appear to be attacking him or else he might raise up his defense. Be warm, loving and as supportive as possible. Communicate your deep feelings as effectively as possible and desist from emphasizing on his inadequacies.